This is a short one.  •ᴗ•

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It's been a little over 6 months of me resurfacing, reflecting, and unpacking feminine energy.  When I asked myself what my dream life looks like, I realized I was not living it. I had always seen it as something I could achieve someday, once I worked hard enough to earn it.  I believed I had to hustle to get there.  The accumulation of burnout, exhaustion, and feeling less of myself made me long to live my dream life now.  Embracing my feminine energy changed that. It gave me permission to create a life that feels in alignment—one that reflects my values, purpose, and natural rhythm. This shift has influenced everything: my energy, presence, priorities, the way I structure my days, and how I spend my time. While I might be making less money, saying no more often, and being less “plugged in” to the healthcare community, I have never felt more at peace or aligned with myself than I do today.

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A woman tapping into her feminine energy surrenders to flow — she simply is, fully present in her being. She feels different.  You do not encounter a woman who is drained, dominant, or overly assertive.  You encounter a woman who is alive, nurturing, relational, and soft (to name a few). 

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I asked several of my male friends to describe a woman in her feminine energy.   Here are the responses: 

• Wise 

• Kind 

• Others-oriented, consider others 

• Welcoming, inviting 

• Detailed 

• Prayerful 

• God-fearing

• Servant-hearted

• Selfless

• Hospitable

• Giving 

• Grounded

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Let's dive into just five characteristics of feminine energy.  These ones mean the most to me...as some are ones I have leaned into and have experienced by the women in my life. ​​

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Five Characteristics of Feminine Energy

​Feminine energy comforts and nurtures.  🤱 🧸 She listens deeply, not just to respond, but to understand.  Her attention communicates, “You are safe here.”  You know you can let your guard down.  You can let go of that “protection” mode that you have been holding onto all day at work.  You can allow yourself to feel again.  It is the relief of being accepted exactly as you are, despite how messy or imperfect you may be.  Her comfort comes from silence, not always needing to fill space with words.  It’s being understood without having to over explain yourself.  Feminine energy is also sacrificial and caring. It recognizes the needs of others and raises up to fulfill them.

 

I am learning to lean into the nurturing side of my work as both a physical therapist and as someone called to "mother."  With the postpartum moms I see, I want to offer a space where they can safely unleash the waves of emotions they are feeling.  Postpartum is a challenging season - many of my mom clients feel isolated, lonely, and stuck in the repetitive "rut."  Being able to offer space for connection on a weekly basis as they heal their bodies has been one of my greatest joys in my work.  In addition,  women are called to "mother" each other, in the way we offer our care, concern, and comfort.  Through babysitting, I have found so much joy in sharing a meal with the kids, reading them bedtime stories, changing their diapers, playing boardgames or puzzles, sharing emotional space together, and putting them to bed — it feels so in alignment, regardless of how tiring it is.

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Feminine energy is inviting. 👋  It draws you in. It holds your attention.  You just want to keep chatting away or spend time in her presence.  I am reminded of this time I had lunch with a friend.  We were having brunch at a cute cafe in downtown Los Gatos — outdoors, fresh air, beautiful sunshine day.  Her energy was so inviting.  With open arms, I felt so at ease.  I could exhale and relax.  I did not feel rushed.  She met me with soft eyes and genuine curiosity.  I felt I could be myself.  I did not need to perform or impress her.

 

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Feminine energy uplifts and celebrates. 🥳  She celebrates you - your accomplishments, your growth, your new ideas.  She encourages you to reach your full potential, and does so gently, not forcefully.  She believes in you. She offers ideas while still having you be in the driver’s seat.  She kindly points out areas in your life you may be struggling with. We all have blind spots, and having someone who helps you see them (without judgment) is a gift.  Her support comes from a genuine heart, not one of pride, greed or scarcity.   Feminine energy thrives off “we”, not “me.”  In the business world, it sees others as potential partners, not threats.  I absolutely love seeing women support women in the entrepreneurial world, even within the same service/specialty.  In the personal world, it is having a friend who celebrates with you over your pregnancy, even when she recently endured a miscarriage, or one who offers rest, shared space, and encouragement when you can finally let your guard down after a long, exhausting day.  

 

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Feminine energy is slow.  🐌🐢  It moves at the speed of presence, not productivity or talking about more “stuff.”  She embraces shared silence.  It slows your heart rate.  Your shoulders relax.  You can take a pause.  Rest.  And just be.  Because, all is well.  She receives before she acts.  She does not respond right away, but absorbs your words, your body language, your emotions.  She may sit with what you shared long after your conversation, and revisit it with you the next time you meet.  Feminine energy deepens your bond through unhurried connection.  You feel a sense of belonging.  I have personally noticed when I am around women who move slower (i.e. slower walks), talk slower, and create safe, shared silence in our conversations, I gain more clarity and understanding of my thoughts and visions.  I also leave the interaction more grounded, light, and slow.  When we live in a hurry, we may [and often will] miss the moment.

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Feminine energy is playful.  🤸🏼‍♂️ I don’t remember the exact age, but there was a season in late childhood or early adolescence when having fun started to feel “too childish.”  Or hearing, "It's time to grown up."  Maybe it was when academic grades began to carry more weight for college applications, or when peer pressure encouraged us to stay busy — to join more activities, take on leadership roles, and constantly do more. Somewhere in that rush, fun slipped down the priority list.  But feminine energy is naturally playful. It’s fun, light, and full of joy — it laughs, dances, and delights in the moment.  She enjoys simply being, exploring, and embracing the adventure of life.  I am reminded of my longtime friend from middle school — we have grown from little girls to young women, yet even now, we still share that same playful spirit, laughing together over the smallest things, rejoicing over cheese and crackers, shooting hoops at the park, and giving each other cozy hugs.   I appreciate friendships that hold space for both — the intimate, vulnerable conversations and the carefree, fun, light and joyful ones.   Not every moment needs to be serious and formal.​

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💬 What kind of energy do I give off?
💬 If my friends were to walk into the room, how might they experience or perceive my presence?

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Thank you so much for reading ❤️   I really enjoyed writing this one!  Maybe I'll do a part 2! 

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