Here are 3 lessons (of many!) I learned turning 30 this year.  

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1. I have this inner peace knowing that everything will be ok. 

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I used to be deeply anxious, worried, and timid. If you had met me five years ago, you probably would’ve felt it in my energy—my presence. I was constantly stressed about school, studying every waking hour, and obsessing over my endless to-do lists. I often felt like I wasn’t enough—whether as a friend or as a physical therapist. I doubted my ability to sit with people in their pain and emotional suffering, unsure of what to say or how to truly show up for them.  Meeting new people made me nervous, and I was overly self-conscious about how awkward I seemed. I also worried about not making enough money to sustain myself. And honestly, that’s just a glimpse of it.

 

Living in that state of anxiety and self-doubt felt so out of alignment. I was uncomfortable in my own skin—nervous, hesitant, unsure of who I was or who I was becoming. Growing up, I had always stayed in the background—never a leader, always within my comfort zone. But deep down, I knew this wasn’t who God created me to be. My anxiety came from feeling like I was never enough, constantly trying to earn approval. My timidness was rooted in the belief that I was “just a follower,” afraid to step into anything new or uncertain. My hesitancy to be emotionally present stemmed from the fear of not knowing what to say.

 

Recognizing these feelings was the first step. I realized I had been living in this old, unhealthy energy for far too long. Eventually, I felt a deep urge to ask myself, “Who am I living for? What am I living for?” Those questions revealed the idols in my heart—my misplaced hope in money,  fear of people’s opinions, hesitancy to make mistakes, and tendency to tie my worth to worldly success and achievement.

 

From there, I began to re-root my worth and identity in who God says I am—a truth that is steady, unchanging, and good.  I felt a deep sense of freedom, like I had finally released something heavy that had been weighing me down. Now, there’s a peace within me—a quiet trust that everything will be okay. There are no mistakes; everything happens for a reason. And I know that I will live an abundant life — a life of satisfaction and contentness knowing that God will supply all of my needs.

 

But I’ve also learned that an abundant life doesn’t mean one that’s long, easy, or comfortable. It’s found in surrender—in letting go of the need to have it all together and knowing that God is in control of my life. True abundance is found in being rooted in the right soil—in knowing who you are in Christ. When your foundation is firm, you feel free to take risks, explore new paths, and step into uncertainty with courage and faith.

 

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2. Leaning into my feminine energy feels most in alignment with me—authentic and whole.

 

I realize now that for most of my life, I was living in a form of toxic masculinity—constantly trying to do it all on my own, refusing to receive help. I was living in this "boss lady" energy.  I saw sensitivity and emotion as weaknesses, something to suppress or hide. I believed I could hustle endlessly, work like a man, and still feel fulfilled. I tied my worth to my productivity, my pay check, my achievements, and how “successful” I appeared.

 

But that way of living only left me burned out—exhausted, drained, and empty. It didn’t fill me; it depleted me.  I had no energy for my friends.  Community and relationships was low on the totem pole.  

 

And I’ve noticed I’m not alone. So many women I meet—single or married, with or without kids—carry that same weight. It makes me wonder… when was the last time you saw a woman simply having fun? Just playing, laughing, and being free?  It’s really hard to find these days, especially in the Bay Area. 

 

When I began leaning into my feminine energy, it felt deeply healing—like coming back to wholeness. I started to rediscover the softer parts of myself—the nurturing, relational sides I had long pushed aside. I found myself connecting more genuinely with my patients and friends, asking deeper, more meaningful questions. Being around children and babysitting felt so natural, almost effortless.  And by stepping away from the rigid 9-to-5 grind, I found new energy to pour into the people and community I love.  Each day, I felt a little more alive, a little more me—more in tune and in alignment with the person God created me to be.

 

As women, our feminine energy has always lived within us—it’s part of who we are. But so often, we’ve silenced it, dismissed it, or let toxic masculine energy dominate our lives. 

 

I think women are being erased from this world.  We’re frequently told that women can do everything men can—but it’s worth asking, what were we uniquely created for?  This isn’t about opposing equal rights or opportunities between men and women, but rather about recognizing that men and women are not the same. We are biologically and inherently different, and that difference matters.  We have different roles.  Are you living in alignment with who you were made to be?  

 

You’re being called to do things differently—by stepping into your feminine potency. There’s a magnetic, healing energy that radiates when a woman embraces her true feminine energy.  

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Are you ready to step into your feminine energy? 

 

 

3. Availability is a hallmark of a good friend 

 

I've learned a lot about friendships the past year - I could probably make a whole blog post on this.

 

Life gets busy.  There is always so much on our calendars.  Sometimes I even have to schedule time with friends a month or two in advance because everyone is so busy.  We’ve come to equate constant busyness and doing more with being more valuable or worthy.

 

What I’m most grateful for are the friends who show up—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Friends who are consistent yet spontaneously there when I’m having a rough day. Friends who take the time to "micro-connect" with me, even if its just a simple text.  Friends who can truly be present in our time together. You can feel their energy in the way they carry themselves, in their body language, their expressions, and especially in their eyes.

 

Have you ever spent time with someone who seemed exhausted, emotionally distant, or simply not present? I have—and I’ll admit, I used to be that person too. It’s still something I’m actively working on. I’m learning not just to leave space in my schedule for spontaneous moments with friends, but also to be fully present when I’m with them—truly engaged, fully attentive, listening, and mindful in their presence.

 

Be available for others.  Underschedule yourself.  Leave some time to recharge and reset.  Let time unfold without any boundaries.   Our mind, hearts and souls need that.  We need to step away from being in this sympathetic state of being “on” and busy all the time.

 

Availability is just one hallmark of a good friend - there are so many other character traits that make a wonderful friend! 

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Thank you so much for reading ❤️  

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